Having it all
I don't think you can have it all. I believe it's a myth. Those were my thoughts until a friend mentioned a different point of view a few days ago. "You are thinking of having it all at some specific point in time. I think you can have it all throughout your life,...
What drives you?
What drives you to do what you do? What gets you out of bed in the morning – besides your responsibilities? What keeps you moving forward to achieve what you have set out to achieve? What is the deep push to do what you do? Remember Your Why I know that there are...
Get out, shame!
Shame doesn’t make any sense. It’s not rational, yet it is real. Difference between guilt and shame You didn’t get it done, you forgot, or you put it off. Then you get called out for it. You didn’t do it. Ok, you didn’t do it. You may feel guilty about it; you take...
Ditch fitting in for true belonging
The Merriam-Webster dictionary definition for belonging is a close or intimate relationship as in a sense of belonging. To be a part of something is a driving force for a lot of us; to find the group or tribe that will give us a sense of belonging. It is hard-wired,...
The Key to processing Grief: Vulnerability
The V word, I joke when I present vulnerability, my nemesis. Like in a lot of jokes, there is something true about it. It is so easy to fall back into old habits. Sometimes, when someone asks, “How are you?” Fine wants to slip out. It would be so much easier to say...
Grief: the Uninvited Guest
I am sitting on a stool in my bathroom – it's a big one. I've been up most of the night with Foxie, our pug who is having puppies. We have three so far and maybe more to come. The birth got me thinking about the circle of life; what comes and goes, how for beginnings...
When is enough enough?
Enough seems to be an ongoing topic of conversation around me. I have heard, "I am not enough," too much recently and it has gotten me thinking and googling. I found this definition of enough at the Merriam-Webster site: Definition of enough: occurring in such...
When will women entrepreneurs stop apologizing?
Recently I have had some interesting conversations with women entrepreneurs and they surprised me, not in a that’s-amazing sort of way, but in the holy-shit-come-on kind of way. One is an amazing woman who started her business about six months ago and is struggling....
You are the average of the five people you hang out with the most
You have probably heard the famous quote by Jim Rohn, "We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with." The first time I came across this saying was about five years ago, but it didn't sink in until I heard it again a year later. That time it made...
When do we give ourselves permission?
When do we say to ourselves, “Yes, go ahead and do it”? Have you ever had a have a fabulous opportunity in front of you, yet you don’t jump at it? You know you want to do it; you spend time thinking about it, your gut tells you to do it, yet you don’t just say yes....