Change is here: my ex is moving out
It is the first time I have opened Word to write a blog in about six weeks. This is not uncommon, for me when shit is going down, I retreat. What is different this time is I made a choice not to do it. With so much going on in my personal life, I had to take a break...
Are you wearing the face of fine?
We all know what FINE means – fucked up, insecure, neurotic and emotional. This was me for so many years. There are many variations of this – I wasn't emotional – I stayed busy, so it never surfaced yet that didn't mean I wasn't FINE. My legacy – Fuck FINE! I am here...
No one has to take care of you
Taking care of yourself is your job, no one else’s. I am not saying that when you need help, support or a hand that you don’t ask. I am all about asking for help when we need it, what I am saying is that it is your job to take care of you. To make sure you’re ok, to...
Moving forward yet looking back
I am happy to say that I am on the other side of breast cancer. Cancer free, reconstruction is mostly done and I am back to actually participating in life. Back to my businesses, being social (and this is still a challenge yet I am making sure I do it) and, in...
Shedding the old
Today as I got ready at the gym, I looked in the mirror and really liked what I saw. Not just being dressed for spring in a new shirt and shoes, but I saw a different woman in the mirror. That’s me! Yes, my hair is red again and I actually have lipstick on yet it is...
Standing in your truth
This statement is on my mind a lot lately. As you may have noticed, I am being pretty honest and open with what is going with me these days, and this popped into my head when my dad brought up a post I wrote about having a lover. OMG! Even at 49, talking to your dad...
One Boob Down
It took everything I had not to start screaming. I can’t believe that I am here again. This was me last week. My emotions were running high, but that is no surprise, I keep it together – some days better than others. Now I can take a deep breath. The crisis has...
The Permission to be Me
It seems like every day I step into me a bit more. This new me is taking on things that I have not in the past. It is all part of moving forward and, to borrow my friend Heidi’s line, standing in my truths. This is not as easy as it sounds yet I am not shying away...
I have a lover…
After the landscape of my body changed, one of the biggest challenges for me was getting naked. For a year, I didn't look very closely in the mirror, I hated what I saw, and the missing piece of me was too much most days. I know some think it's just a breast and, yes,...
Having the Courage
“Am I brave enough?” This question runs in my head more than I care to admit. I know that a lot of people may have a hard time believing it, I do have a big personality and I do stand out in a crowd. Yet courage is something different, and it comes in different ways....